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I am writing this email to hopefully get some of you to start writing our President, congress, or anyone else that will listen. Please send this to anyone and everyone you can think of who might be willing to fight for something to be done.

I found out this morning that a 24 year old Jonesboro woman died yesterday from an INFECTED TOOTH! She had gone to the doctor, gotten anti-biotics and been sent home. She did not have insurance and did not have money, so she was not admitted to the hospital. Sometime yesterday, she began having trouble breathing, so her husband rushed her to the ER, they tried to do a trach on her, and when they opened her up, infection spread rapidly, going to her heart and killing her.

In this day of modern medicine, NO ONE, I REPEAT, NO ONE, should die from an infected tooth. IT IS TIME FOR ALL OF US TO GET FIGHTING MAD AND DEMAND SOMETHING FROM OUR HEALTH CARE SYSTEM!! THERE SHOULD BE FREE CLINICS IN EVERY TOWN, THERE SHOULD BE NO DIFFERENCE IN TREATMENT JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO INSURANCE!

I have already written to Mr. Obama about this, I urge everyone and anyone to do the same and to contact every government official you can to tell them…….THIS IS UNEXCEPTABLE!!

We, as Americans should not have to live without proper medical and dental care!! Dominique Williams was only 24 years old! This could have happened to ANY OF US! It is time to start demanding better health care!

Please pass this on to anyone who might be willing to keep it circulating. Thank you.

Sincerely,
Jan Ballard

We have all seen that commercial right, about the Easy Button?  I think it is for Staples or something, you know what I am talking about, right?  Ok, well, did you ever wish for your own Easy Button sometimes when you are working?   I have, many times, let me explain.

Ok, countless times each day, I have a customer that walks in the door with his/her ear to the phone, walks around the store carrying on a conversation, and continues to do so as he/she approaches my register.  The ones who really get on my nerves are the ones who never acknowledge me as a human being, never say one word to me, and never answer anything I might ask them, because they are so involved in their conversation that they do not even realize they have not spoken to me at all during the entire transaction.  Sometimes I wonder if I said something completely inappropriate to them, if they would even notice!!

Well, one day my manager and I were talking about that, and she informed me that her sister, who also works for the same store we do, had a great idea that we really wish someone would invent.  The idea was to create an “Easy Button” for us that could be placed at our feet behind the counter, that the customer would have no idea existed, and that we could simply step on as someone approached our register and INSTANTLY disconnect any phone reception.   Can you imagine the look on the customer’s face when their phone just went completely dead for no reason at all as they stepped up to pay for their purchase?   How great would that be for us?!!  We could actually force that person to look at us, communicate with us, acknowledge us as a human being, and answer the questions we asked them!!

But you know, why stop there?  What if we all had an “Easy Button” that automatically stopped the car engine of the person who pulled out in front of us on the highway, or better yet, what about one that would shock the socks off someone who tried to pick up something in the store they had not paid for and intended to walk out with?  This really does need to be invented, y’all, I promise you.

Anyway, we decided that anyone who is so deeply into their phone conversation that they cannot even speak to us, or acknowledge us, should not expect us to be overly polite or friendly to them either!  So, today, this guy came into the store with his ear to the phone and I watched him as he walked all around the store picking up whatever he needed and never once paused in his conversation with the person on the phone.  I thought, well, when he gets up here to me, he will surely, at least, speak to me……..but he did not.  I smiled and spoke to him, as I do with every customer, and proceeded to bag his items and ask him the standard, “is there anything else I can get for you sir”, to which he did not reply.  He reached into his wallet, never making eye contact with me, never speaking to me, and continuing his conversation.  I bagged his items, placed his receipt in his bag, and told him to “have a good day, sir”.  Never once, did that man say one word to me or even look at me!  I thought to myself, “oh, you just wait, mister, one of these days I will have an “Easy Button”, and you WILL shut down that phone and talk to me!”

I understand that today, in this fast-paced world, everyone has to keep connected in order to stay on top of their job and life, but COME ON FOLKS!  It is customers like the one described above that make me want to keep my cell phone beside my register, pick it up, and have an imaginary conversation the entire time I am waiting on that person.  I bet you half of them would never even notice!!  The other half would probably email my corporate bosses and tell them how rude I was to them.   DUH, when you approach me with the phone in your ear and never once speak to me, is that not YOU being rude to ME?   I think so.   So, in conclusion, I will keep waiting on customers who ignore me, I will keep smiling, and doing my job as best I can, but, I will also continue to wish every day that someone will soon invent the “Cashier’s Easy Button”..   How about you, any ideas as to how an “Easy Button” would help you in your job?

Just another day in the life of a cashier.  Y’all have a good one, ya hear?

By Jan Ballard

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by Diana Daffner

Anytime is a good time for intimacy. Try mixing it up and being intimate at a different time each day for a week! Intimacy can only be experienced in the present moment. These moments can be part of a one-minute intimacy break or an hour-long lovemaking session. Find the time, make the time, take the time… to be intimate with one another.

1. In the Morning

Wake up to your lover’s hands gently caressing you.

2. In the Afternoon

Delightfully enjoy the sunlight draping your bodies.

3. In the Evening

Instead of watching television, look at each other. Instead of washing dishes, wash each other.

4. In the Middle of the Night

Was that a dream or did we ride among the stars together?

5. Before Dinner

Automatic oven-timers are a handy invention!

6. During Dinner

Feeding one another, by hand, as a tantric practice, what fun!

7. After Dinner

Delicious dessert!

8. When You’re Feeling Sad

Intimacy, like singing the blues, opens your soul to its intrinsic joy.

9. When You’re Feeling Lonely

Expand into intimacy, instead of contracting into separation.

10. When You’re Feeling Happy

Let the good energy take you to great places, together!

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Diana Daffner, with her husband Richard, leads “Intimacy Retreats” for couples and provides coaching in sexual intimacy as a spiritual path. The Daffners are the authors of  Tantric Sex for Busy Couples: How to Deepen Your Passion in Just Ten Minutes a Day. They originated the Tantra Tai Chi™ program, a partnered movement practice to enhance intimacy in body, heart and soul. For a schedule of workshops, visit www.IntimacyRetreats.com or call 1-877-282-4244 (tollfree).

by Diana Daffner

At the wedding, we each stood courageously and said, “I do!”.

Once awakened to the conscious path of relationship, both partners learn to say together, “We-Do!”.  We-Do is the path of relationship.  The practice of We-Do enhances spiritual growth and shared ecstasy.  It is about partners training together on a regular basis, with the intention of living in joyous celebration of love.

Drawing on oriental martial arts for inspiration (Aiki-do, Ju-do, Tai Kwan Do), and spiced with the eroticism of  Tantra sexuality, We-Do (pronounced wee-doe) is lighthearted, effective and easy-to-do training in love and intimacy.

When practicing Aikido (the gently powerful martial art of Japan), I ask my partner to grab my wrist in a certain way so that I can perform a specific movement, or technique.  My partner, called uke (oo-kay), responds to my request, and attempts to give me the energy, the attack, that I ask for.  Later, we switch roles, and I become uke.

As uke, I take the part of the aggressor. In Aikido, we do not act out the emotional qualities of an attack.  However, we train to deliver appropriate energy so that our partner can perform the required defensive action.  In order to deliver appropriate energy, as uke I must approach my partner with desire.  I want that wrist, I want to feel my hand encircling it, feel my skin making contact with his skin, feel our flesh touch.  My entire body becomes involved, as I move toward him, intent upon the direction of the attack.  My job is to give a particular flow of energy.  No other thoughts enter my mind. I am focused.

You may ask, how does this relate to marriage?  In the practice of We-Do, I get to describe to my partner how I would like him to touch me (and with what!).  I can ask for a specific type of touch.  Rub me lightly here.  Or, press deeply, please.  We are in this training together; we are learning to give, receive and share energy in ways that enhance our experience of life and love.  Learning to focus is one of the most important lessons. Another is learning to ask.

As in martial arts training, we can take turns.  In We-Do, as uke, I try to give to my lover the touch that he asks for.  Perhaps only my fingertips are touching, yet my body, my breath, my heart are involved.  As I reach toward him, I am intent upon the flow of energy.  No thoughts distract me. I am focused.

There is such joy both in being focused, being the one who gives attention, and in receiving, being the one who receives the touch that is longed for.  In Aikido, both partners are empowered by the resulting successful technique.  In We-Do, both partners experience the ecstasy of love.

One aspect of We-Do is called Tantra Tai Chi for Lovers.

Diana Daffner, with her husband Richard, leads “Intimacy Retreats” for couples and provides coaching in sexual intimacy as a spiritual path. The Daffners are the authors of  Tantric Sex for Busy Couples: How to Deepen Your Passion in Just Ten Minutes a Day. They originated the Tantra Tai Chi™ program, a partnered movement practice to enhance intimacy in body, heart and soul. For a schedule of workshops, visit www.IntimacyRetreats.com or call 1-877-282-4244 (tollfree).

Sometimes I encounter a new book that just blows me away and I am really excited about sharing this one with you. In Eldon Taylor’s Mind Programming, you will gain amazing insights into yourself. The revelations in this one book about the efforts to control your thinking will shock you. But even more important are the “Aha moments” that come when you finally see why you may have stumbled in your quest for success.

“I have Eldon Taylor’s  book “Mind Programming” and have found it to be very enlightening in helping me find the sources of my own mind programming, it is amazing all the places they come from! I was so impressed with the book I invited Eldon Taylor to come on Heal Yourself  Talk Radio”-Rebbekah White

BONUS: On Thursday, September 10, 2009 Eldon Taylor will be on Heal Yourself  Talk Radio from 12:00pm to 12:30 pm est to answer your questions about Mind Programming!

Eldon Taylor author of Mind Programming

Eldon Taylor, former criminalist and author of the New York Times best seller, Choices and Illusions, is one of the foremost researchers into the power of the mind and the mind/body connection. His approach is both scientific and down-to-earth, and his techniques are easy to implement into your own life. Hundreds of thousands of individuals around the world have benefited from his teaching and his latest release, Mind Programming: From Persuasion and Brainwashing to Self Help and Practical Metaphysics, condenses his 30 years of research into one amazing read!

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This work is so important to all of us that when I was asked to share this info, just like the many other leading visionaries who are sharing this with their subscribers today, I said “absolutely yes.” What is more, as my own incentive to you, I will also be providing a very special bonus gift to everyone who purchases just one copy.

Many of the other visionaries and authors are also providing bonus gifts, so you really do want to check this out. Among those providing valuable bonus gifts are: Eldon Taylor, Bob Doyle, John Assaraf, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, Christiane Northrup, Doreen Virtue, Doris Cohen, Angelina Heart, Caroline Sutherland, John Turner and many more!

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Here is what one reader said about Mind Programming:

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“As a student of thought physics, metaphysics, quantum physics, and all things related to the powers of our minds, including the paranormal, I have felt for some time that the last wars on this planet will be fought not for the control of land or money but for our minds.

“Eldon’s book outlines in excellent detail the battle that is going on– and documents how it has been going on for some time. Anyone familiar with Remote Viewing or the experiments done by our own CIA and other agencies knows the frightening validity of this reality.

“I especially love that Eldon did not just leave us in conspiracy land, but also devoted the second half of the book to actual exercises we can do to experience the mysteries of our minds and feel the excitement of exploring this vastly unknown frontier.

“Here’s an interesting side benefit you may not expect: When you tap into these deeper levels of mind and connect with the all knowing part of yourself, you begin to experience life in a very different, very peaceful way.

“So, probably the best reason of all to read this book is to learn to develop the powers of your mind for good. When you do that, you will be, in my opinion, doing high soul work to truly help this planet and everyone on it.

“It doesn’t get much better than that, does it now?

“P. S. The Subliminal CD “Serenity” included in the book is a fabulous surprise gift. Simply priceless - all of it.”

~M.G.

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Mind Programming is really two books in one. The first half of the book is the tell-all story that uncovers the unseen influences that are so pervasive, penetrating and effective. It is no wonder that failure is so much more common than success! The second half of the book is all about the tools and technologies you can use to cleanse your mind of the non-sense you may not have even recognized as being present before reading this liberating book. Think about it. How many original thoughts do you really have? How many thoughts are about your limitations, your fears, your anxieties, the things you want, and so forth. You will learn that from sickness and anxiety to the way you comb your hair and dress, and so much more, all are a part of what you have been trained to think and choose. You will also learn some very simple easy-to-use tools that can free your mind and empower your being.

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These tools range from exercises that will not cost you a penny, such as the ‘50-day plan,’ automatic writing, and mind exercises, to high tech (but affordable) tools such as the ‘God Helmet.’ Whatever your preference, Mind Programming will provide you with the information vital for today’s climate.

PLUS: Mind Programming ships with a free, high-tech, mind-training CD, that utilizes the patented and proven InnerTalk technology.

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“Even though I consider myself to be quite aware of what is going on in the world, this book boldly shatters illusions about how extensive the mind control in our society has become. Are you really free? Only if you can take back control of your mind. Thank heavens, Dr. Taylor shows us how in one of the most important books I have ever read.”

Terri Marie, author of Be the Hero of Your Own Game

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Sincerely,

Rebbekah White

P.S. On Thursday, September 10, 2009 Eldon Taylor will be on Heal Yourself  Talk Radio from 12:00pm to 12:30 pm est to answer your questions about Mind Programming!

The Letting Go Pro’s Response:

This is a great question because many people have trouble separating what happens at work with what happens at home. Being able to understand and apply the secrets to Letting Go of Stuff can really come in handy during the drive (or ride if you take the subway) from work to home.

There are two periods in which we hold on to disappointments at work:

1. During that immediate trip from work to home at the end of the day after experiencing a disappointment.
2. On a continuing basis as we replay the disappointing situation in our minds eye. Often we replay situations for many months and even years after they happen. It is possible to let them go and not remain in a rut. It is extremely important not to bring these disappointments home and allow them to destroy the peace and harmony that exists there. Home should be the place where you find refuge from the challenges and stress related to work.

BELOW are TIPS I use for Letting Go of Stuff related to disappointments at work. I will offer suggestions for the immediate ride home after work, and then overall suggestions for letting go of stuff related to past disappointments at work. Generally, the first Letting Go of Stuff step for dealing with past disappointments is to:

1. Recognize and acknowledge that you have this stuff/challenge and tend to take out your frustrations from work, on the family. Once you “catch yourself in the act” of being frustrated at home, you can begin to change/manage that behavior, or let it go.

For the daily journey back home after experiencing a disappointment at work you can:

1. Use deep breathing techniques for at least three minutes shortly after you get underway.
2. Spend five minutes seeing yourself, in your minds eye, doing what will make you happy, peaceful, and joyous once you get home. This is important as it allows you to begin to truly transition from the work environment to home.
3. Read, play your favorite music, or do whatever you can to continue to transition. Some may call home and talk to their significant other and/or children; others may call friends to catch up. Do whatever will relax you and help you to transition. OR use the Fun Stuff on our website.
4. Finally, resume visualizing yourself being at home, doing what you want to do for that evening. Do this for the rest of the journey to the house.

Overall, when it comes to Letting Go of Stuff related to past disappointments at work:

1. Try not to PERSONALIZE what happens at work. More often than not, decisions made that affect you, are not specifically about you. You must be mindful of this at all times. Otherwise you will end up personalizing everything that happens at work, and that is unhealthy.
2. Use the Self Managing Grid to help you to remember to focus energy, time, and action on what you can control. The grid is a personal development tool designed to help one, in a moment’s notice, consciously choose to let go of what cannot be controlled. This grid has helped thousands to move beyond the emotional impact of past experiences. I designed it years ago and have dedicated an entire chapter in my book to the grid. Learn More.
3. The grid also helps one to STAY FOCUSED on taking positive action. In other words, don’t let one disappointment keep you from continuing to be as honest, pleasant, and uplifting as possible at work. One way to maintain this is to never give up on accepting challenges to advance your self. Always set goals to be better as an employee at completing projects, meeting deadlines, and the like. You may find that actually setting goals to do this will keep you focused on moving forward rather than stuck in a rut. This is a PERSONAL CHOICE and COMMITMENT you must make to the most important person in your life you.
4. If there is someone at home who can help, then ask this person to support you in not bringing “stuff” home. I call this person the “STUFF SPOTTER”. This person has your best interest at heart and can lovingly identify, or spot, you bringing work frustrations home. This person can say to you, “Honey, you have to let that stuff go, you are home now.” Most importantly, you have to be willing to allow them to say this and you not react defensively - otherwise, getting the support will not work.
5. A big part of effectively Letting Go of Stuffï¿. is to maintain a balance among the various activities in your life. For example, I have to make sure I force myself to take vacations, otherwise, because I love what I do, I will work all the time. Work for me is different because I love what I do, so it does not feel like work. But for many, that is not the case. Therefore, balance is most important. It is critical to set goals in other aspects of your life so you can spend time thinking about and participating in activities not associated with work. Doing this also represents a level of commitment to self.
6. Finally, what works well for me, and I also recommend it to my clients, is to keep a personal journal. In the journal you can release, through writing, some of your frustrations related to disappointments at work. And over time, you can track your reactions to and feelings surrounding these situations. Tracking your reactions and feelings allows you to (among other things) set goals to change how you respond to future situations at work. I am always surprised when I read in my journal how I reacted to a situation in the past, and then read how I responded to a similar situation much later after attempting to make a change in my response. It is empowering to see yourself grow as you let go of old unwanted habits and take on new desired behavior on purpose.

Although these are not the cure all, the suggestions can certainly help one to let go of past disappointments at work, and not take the frustrations home to the family. I use them in my personal life, as well as with my clients whom I coach.

These steps work; however, I refer to these and the seven steps to Letting Go of Stuff. as secrets not because we don’t know about them, but because we do not do them. In other words, we treat them as though they are secrets, when actually; they are there for us all to apply at any time.

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Darren L Johnson is an expert on Letting Go of Stuff® and is known as the Letting Go Pro. He has written and published numerous articles on letting go. In 1994 Darren created and began teaching Letting Go of Stuff®.

During his twenty-five year career stint, Darren has worked with fortune 100 companies such as General Motors and Nissan, USA. As a speaker and consultant he combines personal experience, theory on change, and proven methods - all leading to success for his clients in the process of letting go of stuff.

In 2009 he founded the National Letting Go of Stuff Day and in 2007 founded a 501c3 NGO called the Global Business & Organization Development Foundation.

by Diana Daffner, M.A.

If you judge people, you have no time to love them. ~ Mother Theresa

Even in a great relationship, we sometimes focus on what’s wrong with our partner, rather than taking time to celebrate the love we share. Among the thousands of thoughts that pass through our minds each day, there are those that cause us to momentarily forget our positive feelings, to temporarily engage in negative criticisms and judgments. Most of us have these fleeting-or not so fleeting-thoughts. In fact, they are usually the same ones over and over. “She’s so disorganized.” “He’s late again.” “Can’t do anything right.” In our minds, and sometimes out loud, we judge and belittle our partner for being who they are.

In any moment we are criticizing our partner, we are not experiencing love or benefiting from love’s grace. Each negative thought takes precious time and energy that could otherwise be enjoyed in love.

Perhaps, just as “beauty is in the eyes of the beholder,” our criticisms say more about us than about the person who is the object of our complaint. Could we indeed be projecting our own inadequacies, fears, discomforts and standards onto our partner? Could the “flaws” we perceive in his or her personality actually be mirrors that show us hidden parts of our own self?

Is it also possible that these differences or “flaws” that catch our attention are part of what attracted us in the first place? Maybe now you think she talks too much, but when you first met, did you adore her lively personality? And maybe you think he doesn’t take things seriously enough, but was it his carefree approach to life that won you over in the first place?

We can learn to acknowledge and take back responsibility for any “should’ing” we do on our partners. (She shouldn’t talk so much. He should be more organized.) There are many tools and techniques, practices and processes for soul searching and self-examination. When I do that, when I invest the time to bring myself back to an awakened consciousness, I always rediscover love. When I take the time to uncover the personal projection that my judgment is based on, I eventually reach the conclusion that my husband is perfect, just as he is. I realize that he is, as I am, an exquisitely unique manifestation of divine energy. I remember that he is not only my Beloved but also the most perfect self he can be. He is himself. He is perfect.

So whenever a judgmental thought about my husband pops up, I now use it as a reminder of how wonderful and perfect he is. I smile and quickly tell him, “You’re perfect.” The thought alone, and even more so, saying it to him aloud, allows me to once again hear my heart’s ongoing song of love.

My husband, instead of feeling attacked and needing to defend himself, inevitably responds to me with his own smile. Our hearts are joined. Any feedback or request, if it still feels important to make, can then be communicated and heard within the space of our love.

Similarly, when a judgmental thought about my own personal imperfection arises, I immediately use it as a reminder to tell myself, “I’m amazing!” Rather than having to navigate through all the negative rumbling to finally arrive at my real truth, this short affirmation jumps me there instantly. Why waste time dumping on myself when, in the end, I know I will arrive at the conclusion that “I am amazing!” I chose instead to shift immediately to the felt sense of love that already exists within me.

I can also forestall any bemoaning of our failings as a couple. “We’re a great team.” We’re doing the best we can. That’s our truth.

Of course, sometimes I forget to jump to the conclusion of love and instead spend time in judgment. But as I remember more and more often, my Beloved is thrilled, our relationship is nourished, and love shouts across the sky.

To use this jumping-to-conclusion approach, test out different words, sense what phrases work best for you in acknowledging your partner, yourself and your relationship. How would you describe your Beloved in his or her ultimate entirety? Perfect? Amazing? Fabulous? Try them each out. You’re perfect. You’re amazing. You’re fabulous!

Diana Daffner, with her husband Richard, leads “Intimacy Retreats” for couples and provides coaching in sexual intimacy as a spiritual path. The Daffners are the authors of  Tantric Sex for Busy Couples: How to Deepen Your Passion in Just Ten Minutes a Day. They originated the Tantra Tai Chi™ program, a partnered movement practice to enhance intimacy in body, heart and soul. For a schedule of workshops, visit www.IntimacyRetreats.com or call 1-877-282-4244 (tollfree).