Today on Heal Yourself Talk Radio I had the honored priveledge to interview Tony Napoli (Tony Nap) author of “My Father, My Don”.
Tony Nap led a life that most of us only see in the movies. Tony is the son of the most powerful and respected organized crime leaders of the modern era. Tony’s father was Genovese Family Capo, James “Jimmy Nap” Napoli- a mob kingpin who ruled over the largest gambling empire in America for almost 40 years.
I enjoyed reading Tony’s autobiography and learning more about his life from the beginning. In “My Father, My Don” you read from the very beginning when his grandfather came over on what they called a “banana boat” (it was called a banana boat because people were crammed into the cargo area like produce) to come to America to start a new life. Tony’s grandfather was a brick layer who during the time he worked hard barely made enough to support his family. Tony’s father James “Jimmy Nap” Napoli started working when he was 13 years old. After awhile Tony’s father decided he didn’t want to work as a brick layer and wanted to go into business for himself.
“My Father, My Don” goes into the various details of Tony’s life including his life as a soldier, a boxer, an enforcer, a casino boss, and a hustler. But that is not all that happened in Tony’s life. Tony had a special love and bond with his mother, in the book he talks about this and the hurt and loss when he learned of his mother’s death 3 years after he was forced to move to Mexico by his father.
After the brutal attack on a young man who had sexually attacked his daughter he was sentenced to 3 years at a VA hospital. Tony turned his life around during those 3 years from a heavy alchoholic to a man who has now been sober for 15 years on July 11, 2009 and is now helping Veterans learn what rights they have from the government and who continued on with his father’s dream of helping ex-boxers having a place to go for help when their career was over.
Says Napoli, “Doing this kind of work makes me feel complete. It makes me feel that all the bad I did led to something good. It makes the journey seem purposeful–like there was a reason for it all. If I knew doing good felt this good I would have done it years earlier.”
During today’s interview we talked about many of these incidents in Tony’s life and how he feels that his life and his past will be able to help others who are searching for sobriety as well.
I highly recommend you read “My Father, My Don” it is a true story of a son’s love for his father and his family from most stand points you do not get to see in organized crime.
From back of book cover: Tony’s autobiography is a bold recounting of the confidential world that he and his father inhabited. In candid, no-holds-barred language, Tony describes his life as boxer, army solider, enforcer, casino boss, fugitive, hustler, and offspring to one of the most powerful mobsters of the century.
His story is not only about the spellbinding dealings of the Napoli empire, but also-and equally important-the singularly cherished relationship he had with his father, his don. Tony Napoli’s roller coaster account of family legend and organized crime followed by his turnaround focus on sobriety and civic contribution is a narrative of our time.
Tony Napoli’s website http://www.myfathermydon.com where you can view more photos, read more about his family history, and view the crest that was his grandfather’s when he was in Italy….
NOTE FROM REBBEKAH: “My apologies to Tony Napoli for pronouncing his last name wrong. I practiced it so many times before the interview and yet I still said it wrong. Thank you for being understanding.”
Book Video Trailer: My Father, My Don
Biography of Tony Napoli
Tony Napoli (“Tony Nap”) has had a checkered life as a soldier, a boxer, an enforcer, a casino boss, a fugitive, and a hustler. Born in 1935 in Brooklyn, NY as Anthony Napoli, he was raised by his mother, Grace and his father, James “Jimmy Nap” Napoli–a mob kingpin who ruled over the largest gambling empire in America for almost 40 years.
Tony grew up in Brooklyn, and after graduating from high school in 1955, at the advice of his father, joined the United State’s Air Force. He graduated from Air Police School in 1956 and was assigned to the Strategic Air Command (SAC) under General Curtis E. Lemay. His first assignment: escorting the general around the Far East on reconnaissance missions.
Describing his military experience in his autobiography, My Father, My Don: A Son’s Journey from Organized Crime to Sobriety, Napoli says, “I was also trained to go into enemy territory to free our captured servicemen from prison camps. I was trained to kill the enemy by choking him around his neck with a thin peace of wire–swiftly and silently so that I could remain unseen and unheard. The only real weapon I carried was a 12-inch bayonet. The streets of Brooklyn made me tough, but the U.S. government made me a killer.”
In the military, Napoli developed a reputation as an exceptional boxer, fighting on the U.S. Air Force boxing team in the tournament leading up to 1956 Olympics. General Lemay told Napoli, “That’s quite a ******* right hand you got there.” But his Olympic hopes and plans for military service were dashed by his father’s insistence. Napoli describes his disappointment in a chapter titled “The Road Not Taken.”
The road that he took featured a reckless and drunkard lifestyle. His father exiled him to Tucumcari, New Mexico after Tony had assaulted a corrupt New Jersey police captain. He returned to Brooklyn after learning that his mother had died, but sent back to New Mexico again after another violent exploit in a bar.
“All you do is burn up money and hurt people,” his father told him. I can’t even look at you. You make me sick. How are you my son?”
Back in New Mexico, and in a yet another intoxicated fit, he robbed a finance company. Napoli was acquitted thanks to his father’s ties to a New Mexico senator. From there, His father sent Tony to Las Vegas to work in the Sands and later Caesars Palace–where he cavorted both with mob figures and celebrities including Frank Sinatra.
Finally–described in the opening chapter of his autobiography–after a brutal attack against a young man who had sexually attacked his daughter, he was sentenced to a stint at a VA hospital. During these years, Tony cleaned himself up, successfully completing a sobriety program, becoming pivotal in the rights-for-veterans movement, and helping former boxers get counseling and other services.
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I have to say that this women should be ashamed that she didnt do enough research on this well respected man to pronounce his name correctly. N-A-P-O-L-I, (Nap-OlEe) sound it out. She should be embarrassed that she can’t even sound out someone’s last name that she has on her show. Not very professional if you ask me. On top of that she cut him off multiple times, and had alot of the details of his family and life wrong.(Tisk, Tisk, Tisk!) Especialy when this well known, well respected man took the time to come onto her show. She didnt even have the details right about his family. This was an honor that this wonderful man even came on her show.. So much respect around the US for this man, Tony is one of a kind. I had the pleasure of reading his book, ” My Father, My Don ” Excellent book, written by the knowledge of a even more incredible
Thank you StandUpGuy for your comments, I did apologized for Tony’s last name being said wrong. My maiden name is Zakrzewski which is Polish now can you pronounce that the correct way? Just wondering because in all my 36 yrs I can count on 1 hand how many people can correctly say my maiden name.
As far as having the details of his family and life wrong, that is incorrect I read the entire book of “My Father, My Don” and loved every part of the book and every aspect of Tony’s life. I have had friends go out and purchase the book based on my raving of the book.
Tony is one of a kind, to be so understanding of my lack of Italian language and laugh it off shows me what a gentleman he really is.
Rebbekah, it was a pleasure to do the radio show with such a congenial host as yourself. I received over a dozen calls in my e-mail and on my website, from listeners who gained a little more knowledge about “how to stay in Sobriety” That is the message I try to bring across to the reader, more so than all the details involving my life in the Mob. I want to thank you again for inviting me to a heart warming experience, “being a guest on your radio show.” Always, Tony Nap Napoli
Thank you Tony for your comments. I enjoyed having you on Heal Yourself Talk Radio. I am so glad that others are going to your website and purchasing your book it is a great read and I learned so much of the details and of some of the history I knew and how it all tied into your life. Very interesting indeed again thank you so much for taking the time to come on Heal Yourself Talk Radio, it was indeed an honor.
-Rebbekah White
Hello,
I just found this website and thank you for giving people the opportunity to comment. I was so happy to order the book for many reasons. And it is such a good book to read and learn bout how things were back then. Also I worked with Tony’s daughter she is wonderful and loves her father very much. She always talked to me about her father and has pictures of him and her grandmother that looks just like hr exact, in her office. she is a wonderful person that needs her father now more then ever and she is such a good person. Tony you are so blessed to have her . Thank you Tony for riting this book please follow it up with more. And this time time inside stuff ould be exciting.